Wednesday, June 8, 2011

Making dreams come true?

I read an article the other day about the 5 things people say on their deathbed that they wish they had done in their life.

The first was work less. That's always number One. I don't remember most of the others, but the one that really stuck out to me was that they wished they had just gone for it and lived their dreams.

The whimsical, dreamy part of me said, "right on! We should live our dreams!" The practical side of me said, but what if our dreams would be nightmares for our spouses or children?

Do we need to find a shared dream in order to live out any dreams? And can that be so difficult sometimes that we just end up living our regular old lives?

Are regular ol lives the dreams for some people? Maybe jet setters and people who have to travel all the time would love to do nothing but sit at home.

My honest to goodness dream is to live in a big, old house. With a front porch and plantation shutters. With fruit trees and meadows and a little stream. It would be to have a huge garden that we ate from all summer and canned from in late summer. It would be to teach my children at home and have them not hate me for it, or end up hating myself. It would be to have chickens and no television and no texting. Oh, and the ocean would be the backdrop. Basically, I would be Anne of Green Gables, or really Anne of the Island when she is Anne Blythe and has 7 children running around.

I would also be happy with a little cottage, 3 to a bedroom if we had to, with all the same things listed above but in England or France. Europe in general would be acceptable to me.

I am just craving some simplicity and that feels impossible here. My life is what it is and I love it with all it's craziness. But I dream of barefoot children running through meadows who never once ask to play their DS or watch tv because there is none of that.

I wish I had been able to put my finger on what I wanted back when they were little. I also wished I knew more about eating the way I do now and had started my children on whole grains 13 years ago so that I didn't have to listen to, "I like white bread better!!!"

I just don't want dreams to turn into regrets. But I'm also pretty sure my husbands dreams would include restoring old cars and racing hot rods or something. I can't imagine that lined up with my life of being transported back to the 1890's.

But my dreams are still there, I haven't given up on them. I just have to fine tune them a little so they work with my life and family.
Oh, and I'm waiting for the ship that's coming in to bank roll my life of "simplicity".

And just for you viewing pleasure, a slide show of my dreams:

Can you imagine the jam I would make living in this place?

Imagine the sack races you could have on this lawn.

This is where I would finally learn to not be afraid of natural water.

A red farmhouse? I mean, come on! Who wouldn't want to live there?

Something similar to what Anne must have lived in. And something I could live in til I died.

Can you imagine all the food I could can?

If I woke up to this every morning, I promise I wouldn't ever be grumpy!!!

Also a place I want to live in til I die.

American camp in the San Juan Islands. Minus all the soldiers but full of ocean views and seabreezes blowing.

And if you're dreaming REALLY big, shoot for something like the Breakers in Newport, RI. It's the former home of the Vanderbilt family. We've toured it a few times, and I can honestly say I would be happy living there:)

And please don't get me wrong, I love my house, I love my life. But don't we all wish for something a little different occasionally? Something a little more dream like and a little less suburban like? Anyone?


  1. I have been to Anne of Green Gables and it is one of the most idyllic places on earth. It feels amazing there.

    I'm all for it, Amy. And we'll definitely come visit you, wherever you are!

  2. I was driving through suburban OKC this morning thinking, "I thought I would be in England by now." or PEI for that matter. We never even made time to vacation there while we were in NE. Oh well. I am with you Amy. I love my life but I wish it were England or Canada or Block Island. I once told Daniel I would live in a cinder block shack if it were on Narragansett bay. :)

  3. hey, your first description matches my house to a "t" except for the ocean part, and it is fabulous. i don't have to worry about my kids running out the front door; there are no streets, no neighbors (except my sister & brother in law) and no worries. sometimes i dream of living in a little house blocks from the water where i'm able to take a 5 minute walk to the farmers market, the little antique shops, post office...etc. they both sound good, but i do love it here! and, you should go buy the old Vanderbilt home, i'd love to visit with you there!

  4. When I got married, we decided that we wanted to live for joy, not for work. Everything was deliberate--right down to the house. Because I actually loved my job, I would be the main breadwinner and Paul would be the stay-at-home parent for the kids we were adopting. Our house was purchased for not only the size of the building but for the size of the yard--loads of space for kids to run and play and for my garden where I would grow everything we needed for home-canning. It was to be our own "Little House on the Palouse" and it was going to be heaven on earth.

    I honestly believe in the 'work less' plan. Life is for loving and laughing and family and joy. If you are working too much to enjoy those things, you need to rethink your life.

    I honestly believe it's better to be poor and happy than middle class and miserable. But, then, if you can have the Vanderbilt's mansion and money and STILL be blessed with joy, I say go for it!!

  5. You are speaking directly to my heart!!!

    Just started reading a book called Simplicity Parenting.

    So far, love it.. I found this awesome used book site and most books are $1.-3. each and then about $2.-3. for shipping. This one cost me 3.95 total!!

  6. Girl, you are speaking my language...


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